Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton — A Real Woman of Grace

In my reliquary, I have a first class relic of Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton, the first native-born American to be canonized. I find it appropriate that a woman was the first of our land to be lifted to the altar of Christ by Holy Mother Church. After all, our country and all of North America is dedicated to the woman: the Blessed Virgin Mary under her title of Our Lady of Guadalupe. Our special patroness is also the Blessed Mother under her name, Immaculate Conception.

Just as it is true that all of the male saints seek to imitate Our Lord Jesus Christ, so too, do the women saints — but their emulation takes on the characteristics of the feminine, the authentically feminine, as lived to the superlative degree by Our Blessed Lady. While every soul must acquire the virtues of receptivity, trust, and surrender, these are the hallmarks of the handmaid of the Lord, virtues implicit in her by virtue of her gender. To acquire them, however, practice them and live them, can be quite another matter. St. Elizabeth Ann Seton, in imitation of the Blessed Virgin, gives us good example. Through all of the vicissitudes of life, Mother Seton lived heroic virtue — frequently in situations and trials very similar to those experienced by Mary.

Born into an affluent family and married to a wealthy business man, her happiness was to be short-lived. The early death of her father-in-law eventually left young Elizabeth and her husband, William Seton, to rear Will’s seven half-brothers and sisters, and to run the family importing business. Young Mr. Seton’s health and business began to fail under the increasing pressure of the situation, eventually forcing him to file a petition for bankruptcy, after which he and Elizabeth sailed for Italy to pursue the help of business friends. It was there, in Italy, that Will died of tuberculosis leaving Elizabeth with one consolation — that he had recently experienced a conversion of heart toward the things of God.

Though the Seton’s Italian business friends took her in, supported her spiritually and financially, she eventually needed to return to the United States and to her other children and family. However, a deep and holy friendship had blossomed with her Italian patrons who continued to be of great interior support and consolation to her for all that she would encounter on her home shores.

While in Italy, Elizabeth was drawn to the majesty and beauty of the Catholic Faith which she had witnessed in the lives of her patrons. She longed for Eucharist, hungered really, for the Bread of Life, and found great comfort in the Blessed Virgin to whom she turned for guidance and direction. Mary, she discovered, was her mother, her true mother, whose maternal beatitude was there for her. Consolation filled her with this understanding since she had lost her own mother at an early age. It was Our Lady who eventually led her to join the Church her Son had founded, the Catholic Church.

Upon her returned, poverty greeted her as well. Her resources were dried up and she received no help from her Episcopalian family and community whose  bitter resentment toward her conversion expressed itself in hostility and ostracization. At the suggestion of the president of St. Mary’s College in Baltimore, Maryland, Elizabeth opened a school in the city. She engaged two other young women to help her and thus began the religious community she would form, the Sisters of Charity, based on the rule written by St. Vincent de Paul for the Daughers of Charity in France. The Sisters of Charity was the first religious order founded in the United States.

Provision was made for Mother Seton to continue to raise her five natural children in the convent setting, but she would know the searing pain of burying two of them at an early age as well as the loss of spiritual daughters she had borne in faith. Living and embracing the will of God — the rudder of Mother’s spiritual life — guided her through these times and she was able to say with confidence and conviction,””What is sorrow , what is death? They are but sounds when at peace with Jesus.” She knew that physical death is only the passage to eternal life.

Throughout her life, in her joys and in her sorrows, Elizabeth Ann Seton modeled her True Mother, the Blessed Virgin Mary. Like Our Lady, Elizabeth knew widowhood at an early age. She experienced abject poverty and no small degree of marginalization and misunderstanding. And she accepted as God’s will the most excruciating of all crosses, the death of a child, kissed that cross, and embraced it.

But,also like Our Lady, Elizabeth suffered well. Not only well, but we might suspect, in union with her Savior, Jesus Christ, mystically placing herself on the Cross with Him, that she might be a conduit of redemptive grace in the world. Her travail became the crucible in which He perfected her faith and made her fire-tried gold.

St. Elizabeth Ann Seton stands as a model for women today. Wife, mother, widow, founder,religious sister, patron of the death of children, daughter of God, spiritual daughter of the Blessed Virgin Mary. Her life, her words, her example, and her desire for God alone, give the women of today a sure and safe path to follow.

Following are six resolves Mother Seton made. As they did for her, they may well lead us, too, to sanctity and holiness of life:

She wrote: “Solemnly in the presence of my Judge, I resolve thorugh his grace

1) to remember my infirmity and my sin

2) to keep the door of my lips

3) to consider the causes of sorrow for sin in myself and in them whose souls are as dear to me as my own

4) to check and restrain all useless words

5) to deny myself and exercise the severity that I know is due to my sin

6) to judge myself – thereby trusting through mercy, that I shall
not be severely judged by my Lord

Perhaps these resolutions might be good ones to make as we begin this new year in Our Lord, 2012.

(Resolutions of St. Elizabeth Ann Seton taken from http://setonspath.tripod.com/)

Returning Love for Love

Yesterday, we celebrated the feast day of St. John the Evangelist who in his writings
often referred to himself as the disciple whom Jesus loved. There was a
beautiful relationship of filial love between St. John and Our Lord, a love
that we should all be striving for.

On yesterday’s Women of Grace Live radio, I shared some reflections from today’s Divine Intimacy meditation in which Fr. Gabriel of Saint Mary Magdalen, OCD, offered a powerful reflection about love. He tells us that Our Lord revealed His Love for us by the very fact that He concealed His divinity, His majesty, His power, and His infinite wisdom to assume our human nature. The Divine Infant was completely dependent upon a creature, though He was God, the Word was made flesh for our sake, and was born of a virgin.

Fr. Gabriel then goes on to issue a challenge. He says, “Let us try to understand
this mystery in order to apply it to our poor lives.” He later continues,
“To repay His infinite love, to prove our love for Him, let us resolve to
strip ourselves generously of everything that could hinder our union with Him;
above all, let us divest ourselves of self-love, pride, vanity, all our
righteous pretensions. What a striking contrast between these vain pretenses of
our “ego” and the touching humility of the Incarnate Word!”

Let us take time during this holy season of Christmas to really ponder the
mysteries of the Incarnation. How can we divest ourselves of the things that
hinder our union with God? It is truly a call to a deep ascenticism.

Perhaps take time to meditate upon an image or statue of the Nativity scene, such as
the one depicted here which so strikingly displays the humility of that moment
of great love, God becoming flesh and dwelling among us. Then allow the mystery
of that great love to reveal itself and come alive in your life in a deeper way
than ever before through the grace of God and the power of the Holy Spirit.

“Who would not love Him who loves us so much?”

 

Merry Christmas from Women of Grace!

“For unto us a Child is born, unto us a Son is given.”  –Isaiah 9:6

My Dear Friends in Christ,

As we enter the final days of Advent and begin our journey into the season of Christmas, we joyfully anticipate the great gift of the Christ Child and all that His birth has meant to humanity.  Our hearts are filled with gratitude for this unfathomable gift. 

We are also filled with gratitude for all that you have done to support the mission of Women of Grace and all of our outreaches.  We wish all of our benefactors, customers and friends the peace, joy and love of Jesus Christ and pray that the He will fill your hearts with His Love and Peace!  May the coming New Year bring you “every spiritual blessing in the heaven!” (Ephesians 1:3)

All of the staff of Living His Life Abundantly® and Women of Grace® offer our prayers for you and your intentions during this Christmas season.  We ask you to please remember us and the efforts of our apostolate during your times of prayer!  I would also ask you to prayerfully consider making a sacrificial year-end donation to assist us in our mission of evangelization for the coming year. 

May you and your families have an even greater experience of the presence of the Child Jesus and His Holy Mother, Mary in the deepest recesses of your soul this Christmas and always!

God bless you!

With gratitude,

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Johnnette S. Benkovic and Staff

Preparing the Manger of Your Heart

The Advent Season is upon us, and the call is to “watch and pray.” One way to make fruitful this time of holy anticipation is to prepare the manger of our heart for the coming of our Lord and King.

To that end, let me recommend a couple of great resources we have available for you. On the Women of Grace homepage (www.womenofgrace.com) we are featuring two Advent retreats on CD — one by Dr. Edward Sri and the other by Father Edmund Sylvia. Both of these offerings will take you deeply into the heart of the season and fill you with wonder at the gift that is ours through the Christ Child

Another great resource certain to enhance your Advent experience is Issue #4 of the Women of Grace Journal.  You can use this independently and it is a fabulous Advent study for your Women of Grace study group. It truly encourages us to enter deeply into the reality of this blessed season by calling us into the sacred mysteries of our Faith. For those of you who are Gold Members of WOG Exclusive, it is available in the library. Simply type “Women of Grace Journal” into the search feature and scroll to Issue #4. It is also available in print and can be ordered through our on-line store or by calling us at 1-800-558-5452.

I am confident that if we enter into this glorious liturgical season and let it enter into us by means of prayer and retreat, Christmas Day will be a graced event like never before.

Let’s remember each other in our petitions and ask God to give us all holy anticipation for the coming of our Savior.

Our Queen Mother

Today is the Feast of the Queenship of the Blessed Virgin Mary.  This Feast was established by Pope Pius XII in 1954 and concludes the octave of the Feast of the Assumption.  Pope Pius XII stated that,

 “Jesus Christ alone, God and Man, is King in the full, proper, and absolute sense of the term.  Mary also, in a restricted and only analogous way, shares in royal dignity as the Mother of Christ who is God, as His associate in the work of Redemption, in His conflict with the enemy, and in His complete victory.  From this association with Christ the King, she obtains a height of splendor unequaled in all creation” (Ad Caeli Reginam, no. 25).

Wow! What a Queen Mother we have!  When we place ourselves in her caring hands, she continually draws us ever more closely to Jesus, Our King.  I hope that you will entrust yourself, your family, and all of your needs to the loving intercession of Mary, Our Queen.  Please enjoy this beautiful prayer of Pope Pius XII: Read the rest…

Drawn to the Cross

Have you made good use of your time of Lenten preparation?  NOW is the perfect time to reflect and prepare for the great paschal mystery which will soon be upon us.  In the link below, I share some food for thought for these final hours of Lent.  Please take a few moments to listen.  Join me in making these last days, the very best days of our Lenten journey!

Drawn to the Cross – Women of Grace Live Audio

The Fertility of the Fiat

Here at Women of Grace® we L-O-V-E Our Lady.  She is the model whom we look to as THE woman of grace.  In fact Mary is at the core of our Foundational Study Full of Grace: Women and the Abundant Life

What is it about Our Mother Mary that makes her the exemplar of what it means to be a disciple AND a woman of grace?  Today’s Feast of the Annunciation highlights her greatest attribute, her complete and total “Yes” to God.  A passage from the book Full of Grace briefly summarizes the greatness of Mary’s fiat and how we as women are to follow her example: Read the rest…

Death and New Life

During these first few weeks of Lent, Holy Mother Church directs us to ponder the reality of our mortality and to make a serious appraisal of how we are living our lives in light of it.

Today’s reading from Divine Intimacy (#95) by Father Gabriel of St. Mary Magdalene, OCD, brings spiritual perspective to this most important consideration. Following are a couple of nuggets that impacted me today in my time of prayer:

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Lent: Be Mortified – Not Mortifying

Yesterday on our radio program, Women of Grace® Live, I recommended two resources for Lent _– In Conversation with God, Volume 2 by Francis Fernandez; and Divine Intimacy by Father Gabriel of St. Mary Magdalene, OCD. Today, I followed my own advice and prayerfully read the selections for Ash Wednesday. Both were excellent. But it was one line in Section 2 of In Conversation with God that grabbed me. Read the rest…

Lenten Wisdom from a Six Year Old

This morning, my somewhat precocious six year old granddaughter and I had a conversation over breakfast:

“Grandma,” she said gazing out of the kitchen window in our Florida home.

“Yes, Julia?” said I.

“Pretty soon Easter will be here because it is Spring outside.”

“Yes, you are right. Ash Wednesday is this week and that begins the season of Lent.”

“Oh,” said Julia. “I began Lent already. Remember when you told me not to climb on the chair?

Well, I stopped and I haven’t done it again.”

“Julia, that is wonderful! I am proud of you!” I replied with enthusiasm (always ready to reinforce obedience!). “I have been thinking about how I will spend Lent this year, too.”

“Grandma, I know what you can do!”

 “Really, Julia? What is that?” I said hesitantly not sure I wanted to hear the answer.

“You could donate things.”

“That’s true, Julia, I sure could,” I responded already ticking off the items in the garage that I’d just love to get rid of but realizing it would be a pleasure and not a sacrifice.

“You could give away some of my toys,” said Julia deep into the idea by now.

“They’re your toys, Honey. You should give them away.”

 “Okay. I’m so good I’ll do that too!” and with that she finished her milk and bounded away.

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