Commentary by Susan Brinkmann, OCDS
More and more children raised by same-sex parents are now old enough to speak for themselves – and they are doing so – but not in the way the “gay mafia” likes.
Brandi Walton is the most recent of this new breed of courageous youth who published an open letter to the LGBT community on The Federalist website. Raised by two lesbians, she minced no words in her letter, entitled, “The Kids are Not Alright,” in which she blasts the intolerance of the gay community by adamantly stating “I am not your daughter.”
“ . . . (I) would never align myself to a community as intolerant and self-absorbed as the LGBT community, a community that demands tolerance with fervor and passion, yet does not give it in return, even to its own members at times. In fact, this community attacks anyone who does not agree with them, no matter how lovingly any difference of opinion is expressed.”
She goes on to tell her story of growing up in Podunk, Oklahoma as the only child of two “moms”, describing herself as “beyond self-conscious” and always terrified that others would find out her mother was a lesbian and want nothing more to do with her.
“I knew from a young age that living with two women was not natural. I could especially see it in the homes of my friends who had a mom and a dad. I spent as much time with those friends as I possibly could. I yearned for the affection that my friends received from their dads. I wanted to know what it was like to be held and cherished by a man, what it was like to live with one from day to day. As far as I was concerned, I already had one mother; I did not need another.”
Her dream growing up was that her mother would decide she wanted to be with men again, but that dream never came true.
Instead, after two bad relationships, Walton decided to create the normal family she had craved all of her life by marrying a man with whom she genuinely “clicked” and is now the mother of four children.
She goes on to disparage the studies that claim children of same-sex parents are just as well off or better than children raised by heterosexual parents, correctly pointing out that these studies “are hardly scientific in most cases, and do not represent us all.”
People need to know that some children of gay parents do not agree with gay adoption and marriage, just like some gay people themselves don’t agree with it, either, she writes. “But you will notice that fact is not making headlines.”
Just because some children of same-sex parents say their experience growing up was good and healthy doesn’t mean all children of same-sex parents feel this way. Nor does it mean the testimony of children whose experience was negative is any less valuable.
She signs her open letter, “Not Yours, Brandi Walton.”
Walton’s reason for publishing the letter is to educate the public about the existence of children like her whose experience may not be politically correct, but is nevertheless a reality that must be faced.
Her letter could not have been published at a better time. The Supreme Court will be hearing arguments on April 28 regarding four cases involving same-sex marriages. Other children with stories similar to Walton’s have opted to submit briefs to be considered by the Justices who will decide whether state bans on same-sex marriage are constitutional and if states where the marriages are illegal should be forced to recognize unions made in states where it is legal. In all of the cases presently before the high Court, same-sex couples with children are involved.
We can only thank these brave young people who have chosen this critical day and time to speak out and give the public the facts gay activists refuse to allow anyone to disclose.
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