Commentary by Susan Brinkmann, OCDS
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Millions of Catholic couples around the world are amidst plans for their spring and summer weddings and may soon learn that the latest trend of personalized wedding vows will not be permitted in their wedding day liturgy.
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As CNA/EWTN News reports, Archbishop Socrates Villegas of Lingayen-Dagupan in the Philippines recently explained why the Church won’t allow couples to write their own vows, saying that personal expressions “should not be mixed in with the Church’s liturgy because this diminishes, confuses, and spoils the action of Christ himself in the sacrament.”
He went on to explain that Catholic couples cannot do this because it would be deleterious to the rite and because they do not have the authority to change the wedding liturgy.
“The sacred character of the marriage rite must not be compromised at the altar with romanticism,” the archbishop wrote.
He recalled that the liturgy “does not belong to us, and so we can’t change it.”
In the Vatican II document entitled Sacrosanctum Concilium, we are told that “no person, even if he be a priest, may add, remove, or change anything in the liturgy on his own authority.”
Only the Vatican, and in some cases, a bishop’s conference, has the authority to change the liturgy, which is why couples are not permitted to deviate from the vows commonly used to join a man and a woman in marriage.
The trend toward do-it-yourself vows sometimes goes way off the rails and bely the sacredness of the moment.
For instance, in this article, couples promised to “love and be faithful for as long as we can stand each other” and to stay together as long as neither became a fan of an opposing sports team.
Some personalized vows use a theme such as nautical, Disney, or even zombies where couples are asked if they will remain faithfiul “until death or zombies do us part.”
This author attended a wedding recently where the couple made promises to one another that related to beer-drinking and partying. Instead of sealing their vows by lighting a single candle, they poured two different brews together into one. Afterward, more than a few people commented that the vows seemed more like a mockery of marriage than a touching expression of love.
Instead of resorting to vows that might mean something to the couple but too often leave the congregation wincing, Archbishop Villegas recommends that sacred vows be recited at the ceremony and the more humorous saved for the reception.
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